Dear Yogesh,

I’m just a few years away from retirement (hopefully). Lately, I’ve been working with people who are not only younger than my own children, but now I realize I could actually be their grandparent. While I was comfortable working with people the same age as my kids, I now find myself feeling a bit lost when it comes to connecting with the younger generation entering the workforce.

I worry about saying the wrong thing or making a mistake that might come off as out of touch. (I even wonder if the word “clueless” is now outdated!)

I’d love some advice on how I can relate better to these younger colleagues and create stronger connections in the workplace.

Omkar

Dear Omkar,

First off, I think it’s fantastic that you’re reaching out to learn how to connect with younger colleagues! It’s so important to stay open-minded and willing to adapt. I can see why you might feel like there’s a generational gap, especially when technology has evolved so rapidly over the years. But I’d love to share a few tips that might help you build better relationships with younger co-workers.

One thing my generation values deeply is authenticity. We prefer real, genuine interactions over anything that feels insincere. If we sense someone is just trying to “fit in” or doesn’t truly understand us, it can be a barrier to forming a meaningful connection.

If you’re not sure about something, ask. We appreciate it when people take the time to genuinely learn about us, rather than pretending they know all the answers. Being upfront about your own experiences and showing interest in what we think can lay a strong foundation for mutual respect.

Also, staying somewhat current on pop culture, trends, and technology can help. You don’t need to be an expert, but having a basic understanding can make it easier to join conversations and connect. We often get our information from social media and online resources, so it could help to follow a few relevant accounts or even just do a quick Google search on current events. But don’t worry if social media isn’t your thing—having a general awareness of the world around us is enough to engage in discussions.

On the flip side, we also want to learn from you. We value your insights and the wisdom that comes with years of experience. Don’t hesitate to share your knowledge, but it’s best to do so in a way that invites discussion rather than sounding like you’re lecturing.

Mentorship works both ways. While you can offer guidance to younger colleagues, you can also learn from them. Reverse mentorship is a fantastic way to bridge the generational gap—let them share their perspectives on new technologies or trends while you offer your own insights from past experiences. This exchange can foster understanding and respect on both sides.

When it comes to communication, clarity and honesty go a long way. We appreciate direct, constructive feedback. Avoid using overly complex language or outdated phrases that might confuse us. For example, while words like “clueless” may not be completely out of place, it’s a good idea to be mindful of how language changes over time. Also, consider embracing digital communication tools like instant messaging or project management platforms, which are increasingly popular in today’s work environment.

Another important aspect is recognition. We thrive on acknowledgment, whether it’s for big achievements or smaller milestones. A little appreciation can go a long way in building a positive work atmosphere. Whether through formal recognition programs or a simple thank you in everyday interactions, showing gratitude can strengthen bonds.

Flexibility and adaptability are crucial. The workplace is evolving quickly, and understanding that younger generations value things like diversity, inclusion, and mental health can make a huge difference. Supporting initiatives that promote well-being and ensuring that everyone feels heard can create a more inclusive and harmonious environment.

Lastly, remember that the goal isn’t to change who you are, but to find common ground. Don’t stress about making mistakes—everyone does. The key is the effort you put into connecting and understanding. Your openness to adapt and learn is already a significant step in building better relationships with younger colleagues.

By being authentic, communicative, and flexible, you’ll be well on your way to creating stronger, more collaborative relationships that benefit everyone.

Good luck!

Yogesh